how often we run to the store to get pre-packaged items
back just 70 years ago, you didn't do that
you didn't even have that option, except eating at a restaurant
things were from scratch.........fresh.........and that was 'the every day', not just because your girlfriends are coming over and you want to serve them some homemade muffins with coffee....
how very lazy we have become as a society
yes
I said lazy
there is nothing wrong with using a food processor, or Bosch mixer, but there is something wrong with pre-packaged food from the store.......
think of this:
when you are walking through the grocery store, stay to the perimeter of the store - that is where all the fresh vegetables, meats, dairy, bakery, etc, is...
if you need to, head into the dry goods area for flour/beans/rice.....but try not to get that oozy goozy stuff that they are selling from tubes that you squeeze into your mouth because you are too lazy to put it into a glass jar and use a utensil
does this sound harsh? saying that we are lazy??
I'm right along side you with the big fat "L" on my head
I don't grow my wheat, then grind it to make flour, then bake bread with it every day...
I do know of woman who actually do this......and my apron strings are off to you.....and someday, I would love to do that....in between raising my sheep in pasture to spin my wool, to knit my sweaters while I wait for my goat's milk to simmer to the right temperature for my goats milk soap, as I pull out my bread from the oven, after I just finished graduating my son from homeschooled high school, and taught my daughter how to Irish dance stronger and steeped my tea from the chamomile plants I grow in the garden....
"L"
we aren't all able to do those things.....quite frankly.....I don't know anyone who does all of that in one day
we pick and choose what we want.....like a great oatmeal muffin recipe.......
whip up the egg whites, add them gently into the mixture already in the bowl
then you sit back and watch it puff in the oven and give the whole house a breathe of homemade goodness
and if that's all this woman can accomplish in one day, then go ahead, slap that "L" on my forehead, I deserve it, but before you look at me and judge me and think that everything smells delicious like these muffins, know this: a lot of hard work goes into my kids first, not my appearance...not my house...not my farm...
my kids
there is way too much "look what I did" out here in cyberland, and quite frankly, it's making me nauseated
I have so much I'd like to share with you, that I am working on, or that I have worked on, but truthfully, it is all a bunch of vanity.....telling you what I've done or doing or going to do
(I will, in time, share when and what I want)
reading the written word, especially on the computer screen, you can read someone's words and take it the wrong way - I do hope you all understand that I do not ever want you to feel like I'm rubbing it in
I can't stand that
I share what I do here, because it is my space - my journal
and I love all of you who come to visit, and I enjoy getting to know some of you even more through emails - and your comments -
There was a friend of mine very recently who told me that all she can get done is a load of laundry, and here I am doing this and that and the other - I know she is not bitter about it, but if she only knew how special she is by doing what she does.....
I am a very organized person - and can get a lot accomplished in the day because of two very important reasons: 1) I do not watch TV, we don't have one and 2) I plan meals
with six children and a husband to feed, these meals and baked goods I do are planned at least a week in advance - minus the sporadic baked goods my daughter or son like to do (or me :)
negativity, doubt, and vanity all lead to one thing: depression
stop thinking of yourself and do something for someone else - break the cycle of "me"
create something good today by not talking bad about anyone
look at everyone you come in contact with today (everyone) and know that God loves them just as much as you...you aren't the cat's meow.....you are one of very very many in this world
what can you do today? for someone else??
go bake something from scratch for your kids, neighbor, friend, priest, aunt, mom, husband...
they'll love it
peace + blessings,
It's a challenge to know what to blog about. People want ideas - but yet to not brag 'look what I did' should be the goal. It seems a bit tricky to me -and I've not figured it all out. I've been wondering if blogging is even something I should be doing. I don't have that high of a readership anyway. Thanks for the challenging thoughts. (I don't watch TV either- altho we have one - wish we didn't).
ReplyDeleteI do agree with you on alot of what you said in this post. I started out a few yrs ago just looking at blogs. Then my daughters talked me into having a blog. I enjoyed seeing others and so I thought I can show parts of our home and talk about it. But, then I started feeling inferior to most of the blogs I was inspired by. These blogs I look at are not "journals" of their lives, they are their business. It seems they are out there to see which magazine will notice what they are posting about and do a photo shoot of them or have them on a TV show. Then it's what blog conference can they go to and learn more about making money. It has become a competition...just like you said! Little ol' me will never be able to have the readers that most of the blogs out there have. I just talk about our life and our home and what's happening in our family. They are talking about what paint color they used, what deal they got from which company to have a giveaway. They don't answer their comments, because they have become so big it doesn't matter that someone left a comment about their post....they just see the number of people that said something. They don't think to be a "good" friend and comment back. There are so few blogs out there that are just that, blogs/journals, talk about simple life and what someone did that day or week...it's all business and what deal can be made with what company or magazine to get free stuff for their homes and pay for their blogs. I probably am way off but that's how it appears to me!
ReplyDeleteAnne Marie,
ReplyDeleteHow you make my heart sing... these words are so true. This is why I love to come here and read, the RIGHT perspective, it makes all the difference. Dying to self, living for others, putting family first. Letting God's love be seen through you and in you. Waking up each morning and asking yourself "What can I do that will help my family today?". If it is Oatmeal muffins (which look very yummy, recipe please?) or a load of laundry, done with a happy heart, it means something.
Have a blessed day.
Carissa
your words always hit home with me. love ya!!
ReplyDeleteAnne Marie, I agree with you. Everything we do should be to honor God. If we love Him, everything else will fall into place and we will strive to do whatever He gives us to do in service to Him, even when we fail. I love your muffin pan. It looks the way a home made on love by a wife and mother should look : )
ReplyDeleteI like your comment about Anne Marie's muffin tin. I thought the same thing. :-)
DeleteAnne Marie,
ReplyDeleteEvery time I read your posts, I am more inspired to change so many things. I wish I had your blog to fall back on when my boys were younger but there are so many things I/we can start doing today to make a beautiful difference in our own lives and the lives of others. Things that you so beautifully and honestly bring to light with these honest posts.
There's a fine line with blogging I guess...it's easy to become wrapped up and enamored with all the "look what I did and look what I bought etc." but at the end of the day, I want to know how use these things to make my and other lives more fulfilling. Thank you for all your thoughts on what is really important.
You are a very wise woman and I greatly appreciate how you have chosen to live and raise your family. xo
Sarah
My dear friend.
ReplyDeleteI've recently deleted some blogs from my bloglist because they've become too much, can i say "obsessed"? with showing how nice and good they are.
I also, of course, show my home, my little farm and the progress (or regress :-( ) we make, our makeovers, etc...but, my intention in doing so is to tell my readers there's the possibility of a different life, a simpler one yet so satisfying!
I think so many women are gone too faraway from their women role... (I don't want to say I'm perfect, not at all,I AM NOT, nor I want to be)...
Just this morning I was talking with another mum (sorry, I have to make this example...I'm not gossiping, just thinking)and she told me she has bought an Mp3 reader for her daughter crib (so that the baby sleeps and she can do..well...what she wants, she specified),
that she has been twice (in the same day) at the restaurant with her baby and went around shopping all Saturday....well...I was shocked.
I'm pondering on these themes lately and all I can say is...the "L" factor has taken the upper hand on this society. I'm not afraid of saying that, That's the truth.
Another thing and then I won't write a word more...we got a lot of snow during the weekend and all I can hear around me is people complaining for that....where has the joy of a white landscape gone?
Sometimes I find it so hard to understand...I guess it is not my privilege to understand this humanity...that must be God's....
Thank you Anne Marie.
yours
Fra
I do love baking from scratch... everyone enjoys homemade so much more :)
ReplyDeleteThose muffins look delightful!
Always inspiring words of wisdom from you...
Have a wonderful week on the farm
you wrote how i have been feeling about the blog world. although i do not blog anymore i love to read a few and yes we need to invest more in our lives instead of others.
ReplyDeleteblessings~
I love you guys!!!
ReplyDeleteI have just started reading your blog recently and love it! :) I too have been getting away from processed foods and making/baking from scratch. It isn't such a stretch for me since I love to be in the kitchen and I am a stay at home empty nester so I have a good amount of free time in this season of my life. ;) As far as blogs go I love reading and looking at them. I love seeing people's projects but the ones I love the most are the more personal blogs that I get a real sense of the person writing them~like yours. :) I would love the recipe for the muffins if you wouldn't mind sharing. ;)
ReplyDeleteGood Morning! Those muffins look so good I would love to have one right now with my coffee.I must make some today myself.
ReplyDeleteI cook from scratch most days and when we do eat out I don't feel very well and wonder why we did that to ourselves.
My Mother 35 years ago canned, grew whatever she could get her hands on.Food or money wasn't in such an abundance back then.She would trade her canned goods for deer meat or beef and chicken.I remember even having turkey eggs in our fridge because chicken eggs were so expensive at the time.
We had 35 fruit trees in our back yard of 3/4 of an acre it was beautiful.My parents grew the most amazing garden every summer.
I wish we had space to stretch out these days.Though we live in the city in the country so I buy in bulk and save where I can.
I love blogs that are real like yours.Where you talk about your family show decor here and there and mostly talk about the happy things in life or not so happy things with your families.I love to really get to know who you really are.
I do believe we are getting lazy and our kids are the worst.My husband and I can work circles around them and we are 25+ years older than them. Really?
Thanks for being real I always enjoy my visits here with you and your family.
~Blessings Kim
Good Morning!Wonderful post. I am pretty new to your blog, but I am really enjoying it. You are very wise for one so young! I have been a stay at home mom for 20+ years of the 30+ years my husband and I have been married,we have raised 3 sons together, with just the youngest at home now.I am so thankful God has always been so faithful to us, that I am able to be at home. I always relate to so many of the things you share, and today is no exception. We are just finishing up the renovation of our 5th house! We do all the work ourselves, with me doing the majority of it, since I am home more. I have thought so many times of starting a blog, seems that I would have plenty to share, but I just can't bring myself to do it, does that even make sense? I love blogs, the decorating is fabulous, but I also see what you say today. Would I keep it real, and not change what God has done in me? You do a wonderful job Anne Marie. God bless, Kim PS I love to cook from scratch also!
ReplyDeleteYou have such a way of graciously saying,
ReplyDelete" in a nutshell ", exactly what needs to be said.
Thank you, Anne Marie. This post meant so much to me...I just don't blog as often as I used to...and it's a shame. B/c when I did blog, I blogged to share my thoughts and children with my out of state family and friends. Then I discovered all of the beautiful home decorating blogs out there...and somehow...someway, I lost myself. I've begun to doubt...not feel "good enough"...been at a loss to blog about what doesn't come naturally to me. Thank you for the reminder and courage to be myself. To not worry about impressing others, and of course, as always, putting others before self. For me, that is key!
ReplyDeleteBlessings sweet friend,
Valerie
You have hit the nail on the head and given words to so many of the things that have been on my mind lately- but said them much more nicely than I am thinking them : ) (for some reason, pregnancy number 5 has made me very opinionated, I'm usually pretty reserved and quiet!)
ReplyDeleteAnd for the record, I love when you share things you've made and done! Never have I thought you vain sounding, and I am always inspired by your excitement and creativity.
Blessings this Monday~
Bonnie (who unfortunately does have a tv, but almost never watches it- save Sunday night "date night" with the Handsome Husband)
thanks to Francesca i discovered this post... How true!
ReplyDeletemany thanks to both
Lovely post and so true these days. As I'm reading I can smell the chocolate chip cookies baking in my oven (from scratch) and am so glad I took the time to do it:)
ReplyDeleteHave a great day.
what an amazingly insightful post anne marie! i always try to preface all my 'advice' posts with a word of caution that it comes with LOTS of trial and error. 90 % error.i hate to come across like so many blogs 'i have it all figured out so watch and learn' type of ones that, although fun to look at, glean from, can feel so overwhelming and self-loving. you are a blessing!
ReplyDeleteVengo qui dal blog di Francesca. Quanto hai ragione! Nel mio blog mostro quello che so fare, ma mi piace ancora di più leggere i commenti e rispondere e conoscere gente nuova. E tutto questo dopo aver fatto i compiti con i miei figli. Certo una donna non è solo una mamma, io ho bisogno di essere altro, ma ci sono blog che fanno veramente arrabbiare!
ReplyDeleteGrazie per questi pensieri!
ah the lure of the computer....it's almost worse than the tv for me.....i just love reading what others are doing....and yet, it keeps me from....DOING! i just keep reading what OTHERS are creating....you are speaking to me today....i need to go on a computer diet....
ReplyDeleteWooHoo! You go! I so relate to this post lately. I've been in a bit of a blogging "funk". In fact, today was the first time I posted in about 3 weeks. I like to talk about our lives and projects I do with the kids and how God is working. I guess I thought maybe it was getting boring to read so I've been shallow lately. I hate shallow. So I'd rather not write than write what is shallow. My kids, their schooling and raising them up to be people with a heart for God - that comes first. And if I don't have the brains left at the end of our busy days to post about something creative or tutorial-ish, so be it. Thank you for the encouragement!
ReplyDeleteBlesssings... Polly
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ReplyDeleteI love reading your journal :) Today, I made a chicken pot pie from scratch because it reminds me of my mom. I love making things she would make and how special she would make us feel when we sat down to dinner. So I made mine with store bought unbleached organic flour for my family to come home to. I don't have time to grind the wheat either and that's really not what matters. ;) Blessings to you and your beautiful family~ C
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What an awesome post and oh so true!!
ReplyDeleteI would love to be able to slow down in life more and do these things. It seems as though I can never come to a place where it can happen. With seven kids in school (two little ones at home) you'd think I could get those things accomplished--not so. I find that when the kids go to school I am cleaning the house for 6 hours because it just needs to get done--or the 5+ loads of laundry I do can't get let go or I get way behind. It seems like baking or cooking anything from scratch is the last thing on my list. I feel like I don't get any enjoyment from baking because every time I do, everything gets eaten in two minutes and nothing gets savored. I don't think I could even blog about what I bake because my kids wouldn't be patient enough to let me take the pictures ...HA! Don't get me wrong, this is not a complaint on my part. For the longest time, I've wanted to sloooow waaayyy down---We have a T.V. but I don't watch it during the day, maybe for an hour at night when my husband comes home from work. I can't figure out why I don't do what my mother did for us like bake, cook from scratch, crochet (which I know how to do)--BUT then I say to myself, my mom didn't have 9 kids either.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that you do what you do-- it gives this weary heart inspiration!
Always so refreshed by your most lovely, inspired & beautiful heart...
ReplyDeleteOnce upon a time, I lived for the pretty pictures showcased in country/rustic/farmhouse style home decor blogs. I felt inspired. I thought my home had to look just like theirs. Day after day, month after month I lusted after the French bistro chairs, the claw footed bathtubs, the bead board, the wainscoting, the hardwood floors. Somehow, these people seemed better than I because they could afford pretty things and I could not, can not. Then one day I came to the realization that our old *rented* homestead with its bad carpet, mismatched furniture and lack of Anthropologie bed linens was, *is*, perfect just the way it is. It is full of love, life, laughter, happiness, and contentment. What more could I ask for(except the dairy goats were hoping to get next month)?
ReplyDeleteI always love coming here for your beautiful, insightful and heartfelt words. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully said...again, dear Anne Marie. You always get to the heart of the matter :) My mom and dad grew up very much the way you describe (they're 85 and 86). I think much of their good health can be attributed to growing up that way, although my mom has said it was a very hard way of life at times. They spent one whole winter eating mostly peas and whatever my grandpa could hunt, because they'd had a bad crop that year. Whenever I start to feel like I have lots to do, I think of my grandmothers and all that she had to do as a wives and mothers, just so their families could survive. I think how much they would have have appreciated a washing machine and dryer, or a gas stove and it really helps put things in perspective.
ReplyDeleteOkay, I think I just got off on a tangent, but you know what I mean. We have it easy, but that doesn't mean we should take the easy way out. Thank you for this wonderful reminder :)
Blessings,
Marcia
You are so right on the mark! I have been feeling the same thing lately about processed food - it's almost an oxymoron in some cases. And there are some blogs I've stopped reading because of the "look what I've done" feeling. Thank you for blogging it out loud . . . Kate
ReplyDeletePerfectly said, Anne Marie!
ReplyDeleteI am an avid label reader
and once you get in that
habit, it's truly TOUGH to
throw that junk in your
basket and bring it home.
We don't eat a a lot of baked
items, but when we do, I
try to make them from scratch
so I KNOW what is inside them.
This also means that things
like crusty bread, muffins,
pancakes, etc. becoming a
once and a while treat and very
much appreciated, not taken
for granted.
Happy Day,
xx Suzanne
Anne Marie,
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your thoughts; very appreciated.
I really liked the part you said "negativity, doubt, and vanity all lead to one thing: depression
ReplyDeletestop thinking of yourself and do something for someone else - break the cycle of "me""it is certainly true at least I believe it is.
At least a minute everyday we should try "stop thinking ourselves and do something for someone else.".
THANK YOU ANNE MARIE
Meral
Meral
Nice post, lovely photos. I have just one thing, though, in case someone suffers from clinical depression; it can be real, honest to goodness depression, and not selfishness. Certainly, staying engaged, thinking of others and doing things help any form of depression, but some are truly medical conditions that need treatment. There aren't always easy answers to depression, and being accused of selfishness can actually make it worse.
ReplyDeleteYes!!!
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