6.20.2011

"finding yourself"

it seems to be such a 'catchphrase' lately........one thing I realized this weekend, around all the testosterone, is that the men in my life don't contemplate this

why is that?

As they talked about politics.....digging ponds......and even how they parent........they don't complain

I think it's about time us women stopped complaining

Here's what I see of my husband's world:
- a constant state of the unknown
- living paycheck to paycheck because he owns his own business
- responsible for 6 children and their moral upbringing
- staying in the state of grace because he could die at any moment
- enjoying life while enduring such aches and pains that it dibilitates him at times due to his rigorous working hands both at work and at the farm
- always taking time to have carefree time

it's quite a balance that frankly, I admire the most in him, and other men like that

they don't sit around and complain about their wives - ever - they are just being

Us women have this constant need from some unforseen reason to keep ourselves on top of things...organized...beautiful...clean...

all of these obligations could easily dissapear if we look upon ourselves with humility

Who can honestly tell themselves "you are perfect"  "you are awesome"........if you do: then you seriously have some issues

There is nothing wrong with us reminding ourselves that we have self-worth.....all of us are worthy of life

but are we living?

or are we constantly trying to become someone we are not?

this constant seeking for something we aren't results in confusion and unhappiness.....and we, as women, are very comfortable with saying it is because of "this or that".....when really, it's because we aren't being happy with what we have now both spiritually, mentally, physically

I am constantly striving to be better, and will be the first one to admit that the more I sit, the more I ponder, the more I write

I thank the Lord that he has physically forced me to slow down..........to sit and nurse Daniel.........

so many of you are wives.........and I know a lot of you are mothers too.............you can relate.........

especially when I say we need to be happy with what we have........

if you aren't happy........or are confused............then think of the biggest thing that is shaping your life and ask yourself this:   I am putting_____________________  before God.  
                                                  (fill in the blank)

Whatever _____________ was, work on getting that after God...........a new focus will develop........guaranteed

If you ever have questions for me, or need help.........I would love to help you..........

xo,

23 comments:

  1. I have been so moved by your posts lately...they are exactly what I have needed. Everything you say is so true and the more I slow down, the more I see it all clearly.
    I stopped my yellow house blog for exactly this reason...so I can ponder and write more with a fresh new perspective in a new blog, dedicated to seeing things more clearly.
    Please keep these posts coming ~
    Sarah

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  2. Thank you, Anne Marie for this reminder. It's funny because I was thinking along these same lines this morning. We ought to be happy with the blessings God gave us in our surroundings instead of reaching for what we can't have or be. He knows better how to grow us than anything we could do.

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  3. Even for those of us who don't believe, there is still a struggle to keep our priorities in the right order and make sure the mundane doesn't get in the way of the essential.
    Thank you for this post Anne Marie, you certainly know how to make us think.
    Sharon
    xx
    PS What a wonderful picture for your header, so precious!

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  4. I just want to say...you are beautiful Anne Maire.

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  5. Life can be heavy sometimes, and that really makes it hard to focus on what is truly important. Thank you for bringing some positive light into my day.

    blessings,
    Danielle

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  6. I wonder if we arrive into the better place to be as we grow older. I seem to have shred myself of the being perfect, being critical of self and losing "the me" just to please another. I like me these days, and feel authentic and true to me these days. Happy Birthday 72 years as I enjoy the joys, sometime sorrows and the "roller coaster ride".
    love, Lynne

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  7. Thanks Anne Marie! Truly honest and beautiful words.

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  8. Your writing lately has been seriously moving. I'll read a post and then have to step away and think about it for a while and have a moment or two to let it sink in. I hope you know how much it helps others to read these words. Thanks so much.

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  9. I think it helps women to see clearly by appreciating men, really being thankful for how different they are. My father was so stalwart and uncomplaining it was easy to let the foreground drama of family life distract from what he did every day. It hurts to hear embittered women slam men as if they were all the same, sometimes I feel like asking, "don't you have brothers? don't you have sons?"

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  10. I loved this post... so very well said. Thank you. t. xoxoo

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  11. Wow! I read this post within an hour of reading the daily devotion from My Utmost for His Highest for today where one line stood out at me: "How long is it going to take God to free us from the unhealthy habit of thinking only about ourselves?"

    God is making Himself quite clear to me :)

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  12. Great post! You are SO right!! We analyze ouselves into little pieces and forget the whole! I'm giving God my loneliness. i am sure he'll give me plenty to kkep busy!!

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  13. Thanks sister. I needed this today.
    Love you! :)

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  14. Thanks Anne Marie...you are always so honest and inspiring!

    Blessings,

    Julia

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  15. Very true words. And a much needed reminder. I got bit by the cranky bug this morning and have been having a hard time fighting it off. The reminder to put God first is needed. Thank you.

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  16. Anne Marie-There is so much wisdom in your words. We put so many "things" before our time with God. I just finished helping my dear mother in-law clean out her home to put up for sale. My father in-law died a year ago and as we are giving away/throwing away all his earthly possesions it really brings true meaning to "storing up our treasures in heaven". I believe the Lord is happy for us to be surrounded by beauty. After all he is the creator of all that is truely beautiful. But he and his kingdom must come first.
    Blessings to you and your family. They are lovely and you are fortunate to have such a wonderful husband too.

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  17. Wow sweet friend..your post is very insightful...you have started me thinking about some of the things that I am putting before God. Things that I can change. When my life gets busy I tend to do that.

    Hugs of love and thanks xoxoxo

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  18. Beautiful post, thank you. Your header picture is gorgeous!
    Just read all your previous posts... Catching up now that school is on break and it was such a wonderful treat.
    Wishing you a wonderful week,
    xo,
    LuLu

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  19. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and grace. I work so hard, I often forget to put my God first! Blessings...Jen

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  20. "Then you seriously have some issues"

    Oh my goodness. Such a great post, so observant of our husbands (you'll appreciate one I have coming this week along a similar vein) and then you said that line and I LAUGHED out loud!!!!

    Just thinking, "I am awesome" is too funny - I am sure, in our pride we do it all the time though without realizing it!

    Love,
    Ang

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  21. I think this is one of the most truly beautiful things I have ever read.
    I have thought the same thing for years - ever noticed that men never had magazines telling them what to wear, how to think, be, do or how to get a woman interested in them? They just are.
    You have said this so well, and I am going to ponder on this some more.
    A loving, practical, honest life is a good life, and a full one. I admire you so much for showing that to your family every day.

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  22. I am your newest follower How have I not seen your blog before?
    I am so moved by this post what a Blessing and so true
    Our focus needs to be on our God and to be grateful every second that he is guiding our lives all we have to do is trust HIM
    xxoo
    Pam

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  23. I have been eating a lot of pitty cookies lately.
    Lost my house in January. But, hey it is just a house. We purchased a beautiful property with a good well and electric in September 2010 for an unbelievable awesome price.
    We decided to live in a travel trailer (with 6 kids and one born (yes, in a tent) - I had to have this one born at "home" too. And what a joy it was. Long story very short. I pray and pray for funds for our building permits. But, our funds keep running dry - in this economy and not always having work we end up eating what we save!
    My focus is on the Lord our God! I have learned from these trials to open up to others, but it sure is tough to see the joy in this, especially when I hear a sermon; "have not need not". But I need a home for our family. We would like to have meals together at the table together. I do very much appriciate this post and I thank you. I see clearly again how my hubby waits and is "still".
    I tent to get upset and uptight.
    You said to write you maybe you could help?
    Just give me a prayer that I will get through this and we will build.

    Blessings to you!

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